I wish I’d partied a little less. People always say ‘be true to yourself.’ But that’s misleading, because there are two selves. There’s your short term self, and there’s your long term self. And if you’re only true to your short term self, your long term self slowly decays.

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I disagree with many who are saying it’s as simple as just loving. I think that’s a rather naive view of love. People like to get all romantic about the idea of love, but the truth is, creating lasting love is work. Often when the romantic ideals of love come face-to-face with the reality that it takes work, people panic, and start to question if they really love one another. I’ve seen countless couples who really did love each other break up over such simple things, because their experience didn’t meet their romantic expectations. They hit one bump in the relationship and it’s over, because they didn’t expect they could stumble.

To me, the secret is respect, communication, friendship, common core values, and the maturity to understand love has its ups and downs, and just because you don’t feel as in love today as you did yesterday, it doesn’t mean it’s all over. But the biggest secret of all is actually liking the person you’re with, not just loving them. When you’re in a relationship for more than a couple of years, and the exciting newness has worn off, you have to like the person you’re with, or there’s no hope.

Humans of New York (via rose-hands)